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Re: Discussion/Poll: Getting more comments on a post!

Posted: June 9th, 2021, 5:57 pm
by modelmgt
Kimberly wrote:I try to encourage.
I am terribly shy.
Well thank you for participating! Everyone feels self-conscious or shy sometimes, so it takes a super effort to brush off all of those stupid self-critical thoughts that come up. :applause:

Re: Discussion/Poll: Getting more comments on a post!

Posted: June 9th, 2021, 6:11 pm
by KatLovesPotatoes
modelmgt wrote:
Kimberly wrote:I try to encourage.
I am terribly shy.
Well thank you for participating! Everyone feels self-conscious or shy sometimes, so it takes a super effort to brush off all of those stupid self-critical thoughts that come up. :applause:
:slaphappy: I’m the same way, really, self-conscious and shy about commenting, as well as showing others what I’m writing about. :haha:

Re: Discussion/Poll: Getting more comments on a post!

Posted: June 10th, 2021, 4:39 am
by Kimberly
modelmgt wrote:
Kimberly wrote:I try to encourage.
I am terribly shy.
Well thank you for participating! Everyone feels self-conscious or shy sometimes, so it takes a super effort to brush off all of those stupid self-critical thoughts that come up. :applause:
Thank you Modelmgt.

Re: Discussion/Poll: Getting more comments on a post!

Posted: June 15th, 2021, 5:35 pm
by modelmgt
Kimberly wrote:
modelmgt wrote:
Kimberly wrote:I try to encourage.
I am terribly shy.
Well thank you for participating! Everyone feels self-conscious or shy sometimes, so it takes a super effort to brush off all of those stupid self-critical thoughts that come up. :applause:
Thank you Modelmgt.
You're welcome! Positive reinforcement FTW! Now get TF out there! :wink:

Ok- I feel the need to say this to all of you who debate commenting so much- because this much is true- and I hope it helps all of you.
Spoiler:
Dear super-self-conscious Boolproppers:
So, I'm about as full of self-doubts as anyone else. I say all of this in hopes it helps your mindset.
I haven't been to therapy(even tho I prolly should have, but, ya know, they want money to do that, and then they aren't always worth the cash so . . .) :shrug:
Anyway, something to realize/keep in mind whether it's on the internet or IRL, is that most people are not actually focused on you, but rather they too are more focused on self-obsessing/self-doubting themselves.
The ones that ARE judging you because you come prepared to work, or eat bananas or whatever it is, just are not worth talking to. Period.
Also there is nothing you can do to make them like you because there will always be something they're nit-picking about everyone, and if you "fix" one thing they'll just pick at something else. I've met plenty of these. They are called assholes, and as I said, not worth your time/stress. F&^%$ them.
Now that we discussed that, remember that we are all Boolproppers! Most, if not all of the people you encounter here, within reasonable limits, are nice people.
A third thing to realize is that this is the internet m'kay? Most people, unless they're actively seeking you out/stalking you, (yeah thanks brain) you will never meet, unless you choose to. Literally nobody's opinion on the internet, truly matters to you personally; everyone basically has a right to say and do whatever they want online(again within reasonable/legal limits) but if somebody bugs you, you either just don't talk to them or you can block them. There's some kinda recourse in place for the people you want to avoid, is my point.
So the next time you get the "Oh god what if they don't like me for commenting this" anxieties, just stop and think about whatever of these points are helpful, and POST IT ANYWAY. :woot:
I meant it when I called them "stupid self-critical thoughts", and that was the nicest way I could put them.

Re: Discussion/Poll: Getting more comments on a post!

Posted: June 15th, 2021, 6:25 pm
by Duhmee
modelmgt - what you said makes perfect sense! We should all try to remember those points when we are doubting ourselves on the internet! Thank you for posting that! :)

Re: Discussion/Poll: Getting more comments on a post!

Posted: June 15th, 2021, 10:12 pm
by Cororon
Teresa wrote:My comments are generally: "Looks great" "sounds great" "doing great". And then I feel that that isn't enough and if I am going to comment I have to pick out specific things I liked etc, so I end up not commenting because normally, I think it is great, but don't know what to say specifically, so I end up not commenting at all.
I'm like that too, and English isn't my first language so sometimes it's difficult to just post my spontaneous thoughts because my brain has to translate them and then they don't feel spontaneous anymore. :hmm:

Re: Discussion/Poll: Getting more comments on a post!

Posted: June 16th, 2021, 5:31 pm
by modelmgt
Duhmee wrote:modelmgt - what you said makes perfect sense! We should all try to remember those points when we are doubting ourselves on the internet! Thank you for posting that! :)
Aww.. thanks Duhmee.. glad I could help. :)