Get used to them being on their phone. It happens a lot. One of the mods I have has an option to disable that, so it's not a problem. But before I got that, it was a problem for me in my apoco challenge lol
When
hunting meeting potential spouses, try hopping from neighborhood to neighborhood. The game only spawns a certain number of townies at once, so if you don't find someone you like, try a different neighborhood and new sims should pop up.

RUDE! Now I just lost the game! I'll have to be careful with you...
haaaaaaa! I love that everyone was sitting on her bed!
I married the librarian in my first generation of my Wilde Legacy! She was the only YA I could find that I liked lol
I hate wedding events. They never work for me. Did you hire a caterer? They should make a wedding cake for you. Though I typically make my own and add a wedding topper and bring it with me lol then I don't have to worry about waiting to see if the caterer is actually going to make it. Also, pro-tip: To save on making birthday cakes for every birthday, if you make one and the sim blows out the candles, put candles back on it immediately before anyone takes a slice. Then if you go into build mode and put it in the household inventory it won't spoil and it'll be ready for the next birthday when you need it. Food doesn't expire in the household inventory in build mode. lolololol
Your score sheet is AMAZING! I love it! I would totally use that if I was playing a strict traditional legacy! As it is, I tweaked the one I'm using for my Ugly Prettacy.
Yay for babies!
Whims: Some of them are based on your sims current mood. The others correspond to an activity they did recently (so if Haru was interacting with Erick, more interactions with Erick will appear.) They also correspond with your current aspiration. So if you have a romance aspiration, you'll get more romantic whim. If you have a fortune aspiration you'll get more money-related whims. It's not an exact science, but on the whole whims are dumb and I just ignore them. Which is why I want to try a Whimacy. I'm sure I would suck at it but it would be a challenge lol

Also, side note: If you see a whim that you want to complete, you can pin it so it doesn't disappear. Just hover over the thought bubble and then click the push-pin icon
With the whole UI thing, I leave it on but usually take my general pic in TAB mode because it doesn't capture it. But when all those "aspiration complete" things flash on the screen, it'll still capture the UI
And finally, Congrats on the baby and promotion!
